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The Hard Way or The Easy Way: Deciding Where to Focus?

I woke up this morning early because I was still energized by my busy Thursday.  I started with an 8 am breakfast with a CEO client.  We’ve worked together since 2005 and now our consultations occurs at The Ritz Carlton over breakfast.  He shares the successes his 1,200 person company is enjoying as well as some significant solutions in his son’s family owned business.  How does this leader determine what to focus on?  He is guided constantly by his commitment to excellence in business, of course, but also by his commitment to a high standard of gracious living and success for his community, his company, his people and his family.  He knows what is important and how to allocate his time and resources accordingly.

I got a voice mail a little later in the day from a former client in DC.  He so values connections with others that he stays in touch and reaches out when important events occur in my life.  This, from one of the most knowledgeable and influential people in DC in his industry.  An industry bombarded with intense pressure to provide higher quality of services at much lower costs while under tremendous regulatory scrutiny.

I ended my work day with my colleague, Barbara Ralston, in a meeting with a long-time client and one of his new executives.  This client has been an inspiration to me for over a decade because of his commitment to his people and his family.  He shared about coming back this week from the East Coast after taking his high achieving grandson to tour an Ivy League college as well as several other colleges and Universities and NYC, DC and Baltimore.  This leader knows how to make time for what is most important to him.

What gives these extraordinary leaders, at the pinnacle of their careers, the ability to take time out to think strategically with me, to celebrate successes and to invest time in growing their businesses, other family members and themselves?  They know their values and they use this self-knowledge to guide their day to day activities, their goals and their aspirations for others.

They do not allow themselves to be consumed by the challenge of the day!

What is missing in your life, career, business, and  calendar that prevents you from focusing on what is most important?

Moving Into the Final Stretch of Holiday Preparations with Some Sanity

Fortunately for me, I’m not much of a shopper so my Holiday preparations are simple and fairly streamlined.  I like to give gifts that are meaningful and I like to give gifts all during the year.  This keeps me from feeling any pressure to over-give during the Holidays.

There are other areas of my life and career where I do get a bit over-stimulated and over-prepared.  If you know me, you know this is so true!

My belief is that we all have only strengths, not weaknesses. When we get ourselves in trouble – and for me that occurs about 100 times a day – it is not because of a weakness.  I get in trouble when I simply get the volume turned up too high on my strengths.

My ‘over utilized assets’ get me in trouble regularly when I take responsibility for things that are not my responsibility and I value the team, more than I value myself.  This is easy to see since I know my strengths are in the areas of driving results and building relationships.

During the Holidays, especially over the next 8 days when we wind up our work commitments for the year, prepare for 2013 and throw in lots of Holiday Parties, family activities and a tremendous amount of time with our ‘extended family’, it is even more important to know what works for us, what does not work for us and what our strengths are.

With this awareness and information, we can plan our activities according to what really serves and honors us and our values.  We can establish boundaries with others more easily with this information.  We can build in parameters around shopping, Holiday parties and traveling.  We might even be able to sustain our self-care during the Holidays with this information.

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One key to enjoying life is to have moderation in everything.  A life lesson I continue to learn, by the way.

With awareness about ourselves we have the ability to choose.

When we have the ability to choose while practicing self-care and having good boundaries, we most often choose wisely!

If you thought I covered about 82 separate topics in this one blog post you are correct. I intend to take each topic…self-care, boundaries, and moderation and reflect on each of these in more detail over the last week before Christmas. While many people do not celebrate this holiday, almost everyone is caught up in the frenetic activity which can, potentially cause us to make poor choices.

Happy Holidays!