Freedom and Independence from Our Judgments

Happy 4th of July to our US-based readers. I hope you all get an experience of real rejuvenation over this 4-day holiday.

I find that most of us benefit from regular periods of rest and relaxation.  As a matter of fact, I believe we all experience overwhelm on a regular basis and most of us cannot articulate this experience.  Our colleagues and loved ones just find us to be crabby periodically!

Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed by the enormity of your challenges and the obstacles in front of you?

Do you even experience a recurring sense of fatigue from your obligations?

Consider for a moment that all of this might disappear easily and, even permanently, if we could find a way to let go of the shoulda, woulda, couldas.

Do any of these mindsets resonate for you?

* This situation (fill in the blank) should not be this way!

* This guy doesn’t get it!

* This team is never going to perform!

When we allow ourselves to linger in these perspectives, mindsets, and judgments, we severely limit our effectiveness.

We put up barriers to our best thinking and actions.

We put up barriers between ourselves and our colleagues.

We limit the potential for a positive, productive and timely outcome.

The key for all of us is to maintain the mindset and perspective of a Scientist who is conducting multiple experiments everyday.  We want to gather data and the facts. We want to conduct experiments to prove or disprove our theorems and hypothesis.  We want to learn from every iteration of every experiment.  “Boy, that approach sure didn’t work with Bob!”

The key is to remain curious and fascinated.  We cannot let ourselves go to the place of becoming judgmental.  Bob will sniff it out as quickly as a dog sniffs fear.

If you have clear evidence that Bob is, in fact, a real idiot, please review our Blog Posts on gratitude.  If you like this approach, you might enjoy our free e-book at www.teamalignmentstrategies.com

I hope you get to celebrate your new-found freedom and independence from the judgments that weigh us down and cause fatigue, worry and ineffectiveness.

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  1. Joe Slade
    Joe Slade says:

    Katharine, very well thought through and written. It’s been slow coming but being curious and willing to let go has opened up lots of space for me. And I find I’m making better choices more frequently. So to a new person I and quick to say “I don’t do dram, I don’t do gossip and I don’t do judgmental”.

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  2. Katharine Halpin
    Katharine Halpin says:

    Joe- Thanks so much for your positive feedback and willingness to put in some nice boundaries. Congratulations. Let’s connect very soon. We are wayyy overdue. I love your FCMO model and want to support you in bringing your wisdom to many many organizations as their FCMO.

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